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MILLION DOLLAR FRIENDSHIP

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I have this particular friend that irrespective of what I think I have done I can always tell her “Susz I think I have done something wrong oh” and then we would be able to reason out if I was actually wrong or not. One of the qualities I find endearing in my friends is their ability to build me up and tell me the truth irrespective of how it would end up.

Here is what the bible has to say about friends

“Pro 18:24 A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

Truth be told, I have made my own share of mistakes as regards friends and God has being merciful enough to bring us back together again. Sometimes, I get a few of my friends weary, but in the end the bond only gets stronger. There are also times I have had to walk away from a few friends, for some reasons that are best known to me. These are ten lessons I have learnt from my relationship with friends;

1. Make sure God is comfortable with “him” or “her” being your friend
2. I do know that you can’t always have the same mindset about the same thing but ensure that you are both in agreement on key issues. Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
3. Never talk down on your friends, irrespective of how right you think you are. Your ideas can always be passed on without making the other party feel unimportant.
4. Nobody wants to be around a person who always talks them down and makes them feel like it’s a privilege that they have you as a friend.
5. I have always been able to relate my friendship to what my biology teacher once said about how pests feed on the blood of other animals. It is called “Pest-like friendship”. In this kind of relationship, one party gains and the other party is ripped off. Ensure both parties are adding to the friendship.
6. Never make negative comments about your friend-except you need a candid opinion concerning an issue regarding the other party. Always be truthful to the other party.
7. Always let them know that you love and care for them and this is also applicable to family members.
8. Spend quality time with them and remember important dates in their lives e.g birthdays…Take time to build your friendship. Psa 11:3 If the foundations be destroyed,what can the righteous do
9. Spend time praying for one another and edifying one another.
10. Never let the sun go down on your anger (Eph4:26)

Your friends never leave you the same way they met you-they either add to you or take from you. The case between Ammon and Jonadab was such that Ammon heeded to wrong counsel from his friend Jonadab and in the end, this lead to his death (2Sam13:1-36). These are a few things I have learnt in most of my friendship, some in a nice way and others in ways that were not so palatable. I sometimes break a few of this but then the key is any time you realize that you have gone out of the box, it is never too late to turn back and make amends.

Thank you for taking out time to read this post. Drop a comment and tell us things that have made your friendship long lasting 🙂

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Posted by on October 24, 2013 in Article

 

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DEPRESSION

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Listening to the first lines of Jason Nelson’s song dominion and he goes like “depression, you have to flee, you no longer have dominion over me” and I couldn’t help but think of a lot of people that have had to battle with depression. You probably have gone through the feeling before without even knowing that it’s called “Depression”.

I can’t just help but think that depression has to do with “Deep-pressing-on a person”.  It’s good that English language gave it a name and that it exists in the dictionary, but in my own dictionary of words, I’d like to kick out depression. It doesn’t even exist! I can’t help but think that I have something personal against depression.

I really do have something against depression. Truly first impression matters and depression has never left even a good second impression on me. Depression is a thief of hope and joy and it knows that am not accusing it wrongly. Ask anyone that has ever being depressed and they would tell you. Depression robs you of God’s blessing, because it knows that Joy is the access to God’s blessings.

Isa 12:3 Therefore with joy shall ye draw water out of the wells of salvation

Fact about depression is that it is a thing of the mind and it doesn’t rob you without your permission. Asides the fact that depression robs you of your blessings; it also has its effect on your health. Depression has an ageing effect and hinders your spiritual growth.

Pro 17:22 A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.

depressedTwo simple ways in which you can fight depression from the word of God;

ONE

Rule your spirit! As simple as this may sound if you don’t have a rule over your own spirit, then you can be easily tossed about by circumstances or situations.

Pro 25:28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.

TWO

Encourage yourself! Depression would always give you reasons to be downcast, but the only way to fight back is to also give it reasons why you shouldn’t be.

1Sa 30:6 And David was greatly distressed for the people spoke of stoning him, because the soul of all the people were grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encourage himself in the LORD his God.

If you would just take your eyes off the things that seem to weigh you down and fix your eyes on Jesus, then you would realize that it wasn’t so big after all, just like David and Goliath. Even if you are not capable you serve a capable God.

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Posted by on October 21, 2013 in Article, Healing, Hope

 

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THE GREATEST AUTHOR

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I recently heard a very striking quote “Don’t let your background, put your back to the ground”. I am tempted to look at the circumstances surrounding me sometimes and then I lose focus of the promise. Another quote I agree very much with is “Tough times don’t last, but tough people do”.

When I was in primary school my dad told me and my brothers that any of us that could come up with a very interesting story, he would publish it for us. The thought was very appealing and so you would see each of us struggling to write a story. I used the word struggling because back then I don’t think our write ups were anything to write home about, in fact any time I got close to writing a story after a page the story comes to an end.

I devised a means of writing. I would pick up any of my favourite story book and play with the characters. I changed their names and I made the story end the way I thought it should. I didn’t get to present the book at the end, but I felt good about the characters I had created.

A preacher was preaching recently and said “never write off a man till he is in the grave”. Let me introduce you to the greatest author that has ever lived and is still living. His name is Jesus Christ!

Heb 12:1 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.


Why am I introducing you to Jesus Christ today! It’s because I know that he is able to give you the perfect end and make all things work together for your good (Romans 8:28).

Jer 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.


Christ has written a perfect end for you. So don’t let that past hold you down “Don’t let one bad chapter in your life hold you down, the key is to let Christ give you that perfect ending, by believing that he is Able”. You might be saying you don’t know what I have being through, if I don’t know, God knows and he is saying everything will work together for your good and at the end you would become a best-seller. Imagine the best author writing a book; of course it will become a best-seller. Just see whatever phase you are in now as the middle of the story. Remember better is the end of a matter than the beginning thereof.

Ecc 7:8 Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.

 
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Posted by on October 1, 2013 in Article, stories

 

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