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MILLION DOLLAR FRIENDSHIP

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I have this particular friend that irrespective of what I think I have done I can always tell her “Susz I think I have done something wrong oh” and then we would be able to reason out if I was actually wrong or not. One of the qualities I find endearing in my friends is their ability to build me up and tell me the truth irrespective of how it would end up.

Here is what the bible has to say about friends

“Pro 18:24 A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

Truth be told, I have made my own share of mistakes as regards friends and God has being merciful enough to bring us back together again. Sometimes, I get a few of my friends weary, but in the end the bond only gets stronger. There are also times I have had to walk away from a few friends, for some reasons that are best known to me. These are ten lessons I have learnt from my relationship with friends;

1. Make sure God is comfortable with “him” or “her” being your friend
2. I do know that you can’t always have the same mindset about the same thing but ensure that you are both in agreement on key issues. Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
3. Never talk down on your friends, irrespective of how right you think you are. Your ideas can always be passed on without making the other party feel unimportant.
4. Nobody wants to be around a person who always talks them down and makes them feel like it’s a privilege that they have you as a friend.
5. I have always been able to relate my friendship to what my biology teacher once said about how pests feed on the blood of other animals. It is called “Pest-like friendship”. In this kind of relationship, one party gains and the other party is ripped off. Ensure both parties are adding to the friendship.
6. Never make negative comments about your friend-except you need a candid opinion concerning an issue regarding the other party. Always be truthful to the other party.
7. Always let them know that you love and care for them and this is also applicable to family members.
8. Spend quality time with them and remember important dates in their lives e.g birthdays…Take time to build your friendship. Psa 11:3 If the foundations be destroyed,what can the righteous do
9. Spend time praying for one another and edifying one another.
10. Never let the sun go down on your anger (Eph4:26)

Your friends never leave you the same way they met you-they either add to you or take from you. The case between Ammon and Jonadab was such that Ammon heeded to wrong counsel from his friend Jonadab and in the end, this lead to his death (2Sam13:1-36). These are a few things I have learnt in most of my friendship, some in a nice way and others in ways that were not so palatable. I sometimes break a few of this but then the key is any time you realize that you have gone out of the box, it is never too late to turn back and make amends.

Thank you for taking out time to read this post. Drop a comment and tell us things that have made your friendship long lasting 🙂

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Posted by on October 24, 2013 in Article

 

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ABORTION – FEELING GUILTY?


The doctors coming at you with their knives and all, then the scream and then the darkness…The water cascading down your back and you try to wash it all away. Try hard as you may, you still feel dirty, the top of your skin tingles from irritation. You press the sponge to your skin and scrub as hard as you can, till your skin begins to bleed and the bathwater turns red, after a few minutes you are still there and the pain comes all back! Your hands are full of blood (Isaiah 1:15)…

Does this feel like something you are going through at the moment? Then this article is for you. You felt this was the right decision you could ever make, to make the situation right again. Your friend, Parent or the guy that promised you marriage, promised you it will be all better after the abortion and soon enough you found out that it was a lie. It wasn’t alright at all.

The circle begins. This is the time that nobody told you of. The period after the deed is done. The questions start swimming in your head “Why did I do this?”, “Am I going to be the same again?”, “Who would ever want me?”…and then comes condemnation knocking on your door “I am worthless”, “God would never love me anymore”, “I am doomed for judgement”, “I would never marry and have a good home” and the list goes on and on.
Pause!!! Beating yourself down with condemning thoughts hasn’t changed anything so far! In fact it probably has added more to the challenge already.

TRUTH ONE
The trick of the devil is to hold you down through condemnation, fear, doubt, low self-esteem…If you have confessed your sins to God, He has forgiven you and he has given you a clean slate. Who are you to remember what God has forgotten?
1John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Romans 8:1 makes us to understand that there is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Run out of condemnation by walking into the waiting arms of Jesus Christ.

TRUTH TWO
The Lord is waiting for you with his arms stretched out, just like the parable of the prodigal son. Heaven would rejoice to have you come home. He is saying to you come irrespective of who you are, we can reason together and everything will be alright again.
Isa 1:18 Come now, and let us reason together, saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.

TRUTH THREE
You can still get up! The story of the woman at the well side shows that Jesus Christ still has Mercy on even the most despised, on those who have given up on themselves. He forgave her but there was one instruction he left with her.
John 8:11 …Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go and sin no more.

Jesus Christ is saying the same to you daughter of Zion, I do not condemn you even if the world does, go and sin no more. Do you know how precious you are? In case you are thinking that you have never aborted, I ask you, what about those dreams that were placed in your heart? What did you do with them!
Heb 12:1 …let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us…
We can take our queue from the life of Paul the apostle. Paul was one person that should have being moving around with his head buried in the ground. But here in this scripture he charged us on moving ahead and I ask that you do same.
Phi 3:12 Not as though I had already attained, either were already perfect: but I follow after, if that I may apprehend that for which also I am apprehended of Christ Jesus.
Phi 3:14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

If at this moment you are thinking of going through this gory process of abortion, here is a piece of thought “abortion is just a temporary solution”. Remember the spiritual and medical effects of abortion. Like TD Jakes would say Woman thou art Loosed. Play!!!

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Posted by on September 21, 2013 in Article, Healing, Hope, stories

 

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GIVE IT A NAME

Many of us have stories to tell…Many years ago I stood as a very skinny and perplexed young girl as I watched a panel beater (as they call them), use all sort of tools to hit my favorite red car. My dad was found of taking me to the mechanics anytime he went there (I never understood why he didn’t take my brothers).
Oh well! I think I understand, I was supposed to learn some lessons, plus the bible always referred to both male and female as men, so maybe in my house it was same! In fact recently a lady banker saw me topping the oil in my dad’s car and was so surprised. The fact that I grew up with boys even influenced my decision to studying engineering and at the end of the day I ended up being referred to as a guy by my male counterparts! As a matter of fact all engineering girls were referred to as guys!
Back to my story! I tugged at my father’s hand innocently and asked my dad “Daddy why are they beating the car” can’t really remember his response, but I guess he must have said “Wait and see”. At a point the man started using sand paper. I just couldn’t take it again!
I wasn’t there when the car was hit but I just couldn’t help but think of the man…Why did he have to hit my dad? Finally my dad dragged me away from the car, all the way home…Did I tell you I kept on disturbing him with questions all the while!
I didn’t want to leave I wanted to stay by the side of my red car. I dressed up very well as we were to come pick up the car the next day (I think I did). On getting to the workshop, there was a look of alarm on my face “Daddy where is my car” I always thought the car was mine after all it was for my dad. When dad laughed and pointed to a strange looking car
Wow! I exclaimed. I thought the car was strange because it looked very new, almost like the day my dad brought it home. In fact to me it looked better. I looked at my dad and probably said “When can we do this again” and he probably gave me a reply like “Any time we get knocked in the back”
2 Corinthians 4:8(msg) We’ve being surrounded and battered by troubles, but we are not demoralized; we are not sure what to do; but we know that God Knows what to do; we’ve been spiritually terrorized, but God hasn’t left our side; we’ve been thrown down, but we haven’t broken.
Hands Working on Ceramic PieceExciting! Life may have dealt you some few knocks, and like me you may have asked plenty questions when God is only trying to bend you back into shape, but I have no doubt that you would be restored better than new! After all he is the manufacturer and the best panel beater ever. I read once in an article that a potter breaks the clay when it’s not taking the shape he had in mind and moulds it again. Didn’t get to name this article so please help out, what name do you think suits this article best, and it will be used.

Check this article called “The Potter’s Touch”

 
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Posted by on September 11, 2013 in Article, Hope, stories

 

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I Am very sorry I haven’t being able to post for a while now…I have been so busy with my upcoming convocation plans and activities, with no internet facilities around. That’s no excuse really! Good news! Shalom Truths Magazine would be released very soon…I promise it would be very impactful. I leave you with this charge (Jhn 3:16), it has become so common that even when you are sleeping you can recite it….The Love of God is so powerful that He gave his only begotten son for us. Meaning that God is not too slow. He can give up anything for you. You just trust in the Lord with all your heart (Proverbs 3:3-5) and know that everything is working out for your good.
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths

 
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Posted by on July 17, 2013 in Article

 

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