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MILLION DOLLAR FRIENDSHIP

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I have this particular friend that irrespective of what I think I have done I can always tell her “Susz I think I have done something wrong oh” and then we would be able to reason out if I was actually wrong or not. One of the qualities I find endearing in my friends is their ability to build me up and tell me the truth irrespective of how it would end up.

Here is what the bible has to say about friends

“Pro 18:24 A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

Truth be told, I have made my own share of mistakes as regards friends and God has being merciful enough to bring us back together again. Sometimes, I get a few of my friends weary, but in the end the bond only gets stronger. There are also times I have had to walk away from a few friends, for some reasons that are best known to me. These are ten lessons I have learnt from my relationship with friends;

1. Make sure God is comfortable with “him” or “her” being your friend
2. I do know that you can’t always have the same mindset about the same thing but ensure that you are both in agreement on key issues. Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
3. Never talk down on your friends, irrespective of how right you think you are. Your ideas can always be passed on without making the other party feel unimportant.
4. Nobody wants to be around a person who always talks them down and makes them feel like it’s a privilege that they have you as a friend.
5. I have always been able to relate my friendship to what my biology teacher once said about how pests feed on the blood of other animals. It is called “Pest-like friendship”. In this kind of relationship, one party gains and the other party is ripped off. Ensure both parties are adding to the friendship.
6. Never make negative comments about your friend-except you need a candid opinion concerning an issue regarding the other party. Always be truthful to the other party.
7. Always let them know that you love and care for them and this is also applicable to family members.
8. Spend quality time with them and remember important dates in their lives e.g birthdays…Take time to build your friendship. Psa 11:3 If the foundations be destroyed,what can the righteous do
9. Spend time praying for one another and edifying one another.
10. Never let the sun go down on your anger (Eph4:26)

Your friends never leave you the same way they met you-they either add to you or take from you. The case between Ammon and Jonadab was such that Ammon heeded to wrong counsel from his friend Jonadab and in the end, this lead to his death (2Sam13:1-36). These are a few things I have learnt in most of my friendship, some in a nice way and others in ways that were not so palatable. I sometimes break a few of this but then the key is any time you realize that you have gone out of the box, it is never too late to turn back and make amends.

Thank you for taking out time to read this post. Drop a comment and tell us things that have made your friendship long lasting 🙂

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Posted by on October 24, 2013 in Article

 

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SUPERSTITION VS THE LAW OF KARMA

I was running late for an impartation service which was slated for eight and rain was falling heavily, I was able to get my dad to drop me at the bus stop as he was free at that time. After boarding a bus, I sat at the middle row alongside the conductor, there was a boy directly in front of me, and he looked a little bit young. He gave the conductor 200 Naira note and the conductor handed him a 100 Naira in return.

The boy refused to collect the change due to the fact that the money was wet as a result of the rain. Let me chip this in, I was actually happy that the boy rejected the money, because the conductor was treating him in a very rude manner.

They both had an argument and the conductor rained him with insults, after which he told the driver to stop the car and they asked him to come down from the bus. As if that was not enough they continued insulting the boy immediately after they dropped him, I was concerned but at the same time all I wanted was to get to my destination on time.

Now here is the funny part, a small distance after the boy had highlighted, we had a funny sound from the car, boom! Then the car slowed to a halt. I then overheard the conversation of two of the passengers. They were talking in Yoruba but for the sake of all, I will transcribe to English.

“The head of that boy is very strong” one of the passengers said to another. This means that the passenger thought that it was due to the fact that they told the boy to highlight that the vehicle packed up. The second passenger nodded his head to affirm his statement. We had to come down as the bus was no longer in good shape to take us to our destination. I overheard the same passenger repeating the same thing to the conductor and then all of a sudden the conductor that was using abusive words earlier, started saying “God pass am”. At that point I couldn’t hold my laughter.

I walked up to the passenger and asked him if he ever considered that the bus had needed maintenance prior to that and that’s why it was in such a condition. Immediately I told him he started saying “don’t mind them they don’t take care of their vehicles”.

A friend of mine was recently telling me about some few superstitions and how the devil uses it as an opportunity. He said in the North you are to treat twins well, otherwise it is believed that something negative can occur.

He said there was this short boy, a twin, named Hassan. Hassan was a dwarf and had a very big head, as of that time he was 20 years. According to him folks called him “Kei de Kei”, then on a Saturday morning, Hassan was passing along the route where a woman fries akara and she calls him “Kei de Kei”, which in Hausa means “double head” and then he said “let me see how you would fry your akara”, well to cut the long story short the akara was in the hot oil but couldn’t get fried until she apologized and then by the time she got back to her akara it was burnt.

The moment I explained to the passenger his perspective changed immediately. Why did he result to thinking that the boy was the cause of the bus breakdown? Knowledge! God speaking in Hosea 4:6

Hos 4:6 My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children.

I do not doubt that it is good to do good and all. My challenge comes to linking it to the Law of Karma or superstition as it relates to us Christians. Take care of twins because you one day want to have your own and not because something bad would happen if you do not. One thing I learnt from Pastor Ubong Ntia is to ask a question and the question is “Who said so?”

“They said all the girls in your family never get married” your reply “Who said so?”
“They said you won’t make it” your reply “Who said so?”
“You are under superstition and the law of Karma” your reply “Who said so?”

It is what you place yourself under that you are subject to. Good thing was that I was able to get to my destination on time for the impartation service, if not I would have looked for that conductor with a big whip. I leave the rest to my imagination. So much for superstition and Karma!

 
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Posted by on September 30, 2013 in Article, stories

 

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